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Lessons Learned From A Sex Trafficker

Warning– Possible triggers I’ve had a really difficult time crafting this blog entry.  The reason is that I absolutely hate articles that are done in such a way as to increase guilt. In fact, if you post something on Facebook that implies I’m…

CLICK!- Are Your Living in Fast Forward or Rewind?

The title of this blog comes from a 2006 Adam Sandler Film (for the trailer you can look here, note the show is PG-13) called “Click”.  This movie tells the story of the ‘stereotypical father’, who has the thought that wouldn’t it be nice…

The View From My Chair, Part 1

Two or three years ago, I began to get the urge to write a book.  The title of this post was the title  that I contemplated.  You see, over the years, I’ve wondered if my clients can see what I see when I…

Baby Steps and Flat Tires

I just hung up from a phone conversation with a friend. His partner needed help taking care of a flat tire and so our conversation was a bit shorter than usual. Shortly after, we were texting and I let him know that filling…

Reverse the Golden Rule

Growing up the Golden Rule was taught everywhere; in the home, at school and in communities of faith. But, today it struck me that perhaps we should look at the reverse of the Golden Rule. So, as a quick refresher, the Golden Rule…

What’s so Wrong with Avoiding?

I remember being a young child and saying something to the effect of “It hurts when I do this.”  And my parent responded “Then don’t do that.”  Am I the only one?  Surely I’m not. In fact, I know I’m not.  Now, I…

Bystander Effect

I remember hearing about the bystander effect. I’m pretty sure that the first time I ever heard it was a sociology course in high school. Regardless of where I heard it; I heard it at a time when I was young, naïve and…

Thank you, but….

I’m not really sure why this particular memory flooded my mind this morning as I sat in my car waiting for the rain to stop.  However, I thought it was worth sharing. Have you ever noticed that the art of receiving a compliment…

Confusing Your Critical Mind for Your Observing Mind

I was recently consulting with a colleague on a particularly difficult case. As my colleague shared his client’s situation a bit and the clinical impressions, I found myself asking him, “Is it possible that your client has confused his Observing Mind for his…

The Dark Side of Resiliency

  As I typed this title, I could hear the Star Wars theme running through my mind. No, I don’t think resiliency is Darth Vader or a Sith Lord. However, sometimes the most resilient people (we’ll call them Jedi Knights for this blog)…

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